It's not me, it's you.

The other day I had a "disagreement" with a very close friend of mine. I will spare you the details , because i could sit here and write for days. My frustration and built up anger came from years of "putting up" with it. So much so, that it even made me question why i did it? Then i started thinking.

Could we just have grown apart? or were we just overwhelmed and possibly needed some time apart? I hated to use the same terminology that i used when dealing with my personal relationship, but really what was the difference? My "exstranged" bf and I had been starting to to remedy the status of our relationship after some time apart, and perhaps me and my friend needed the same thing? It's easy to assume someone will always be there for you, because they never have been faced with the possibility of losing you. It's sad that something major needs to happen in order for one to come to this realization, but maybe it was the only way? I believed that any person in your life should be carefully selected.

Everyone you surround yourself with, whether they are lovers, friends, partners or spouses should contribute and enrich you in some way, if not, why do we keep them? Let me clairify, by enrich, i did not mean, that you have to be able to "get something" out of everyone, at least not in a material sense, but i liked to think that the people in my life are essential to my happiness and overall sanity. The ones i keep around, encourage, inspire, educate, or just support me, they are ESSENTIAL.

So now here was the hard part. If someone isn't meeting that criteria, do you keep them around , just because? does your history with someone outweigh and make up for the fact that they arent making you happy anymore? How did you know that it was time to breakup with a friend?

hmmm....